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9 Tiny Daily Habits to Boost Your Charisma, Likability, and Confidence
Consistently practicing them can lead to massive compounding results
Asa painfully shy middle-schooler with a terrible stutter and blood-curdling social anxiety, confidence had seemed beyond enigmatic.
I would jaw-droppingly gape at the ease with which YouTube pranksters would pull off bold social stunts and pickup artists bag phone numbers by the dozen.
But having grown into a confident young man who can ignite a conversation with (almost) any stranger, charisma’s no longer a puzzle.
Charismatic confidence isn’t an inborn trait that a god-blessed few possess — but a learnable skill.
One that anyone can master through patient practice.
While I still wouldn’t be comfortable strutting around with soiled pants in bright daylight, I’ve learned a few tricks of the trade — that I’ll share with you.
These aren’t “quick fixes” that will yield immediate results, but small habits that will compound to tremendous returns only if you adhere to them.
1. Smile and Greet Strangers You Run Into
Be it the awkward elevator silence or the busy stiffness of a pedestrian passing, dispel it with a warm greeting — bonus points for an ear-to-ear smile and a funny icebreaker.
“It’s a wonderful morning, isn’t it?”, “With such traffic, I could grow old waiting,” “Monday mornings are truly the worst, eh?”, “The weather’s just amazing today, ain’t it?”
What you say doesn’t matter anywhere as much as how you say it.
Even the cleverest of opening lines with a hung face and a hesitant voice will appear creepy.
But if you’re actually relishing the day and buzzing with positivity? The infectious energy will trigger smiles all around.
If not a greeting, a dip of the head, or a warm smile will do the trick — not everyone will reciprocate, but that doesn’t matter.
2. The Simple Trick For “Warm Charisma”
As Olivia Fox Cabane writes in The Charisma Myth, there are 3 major types of charisma — warm, authoritative, and focused.
For excelling in social interactions, the warmth mode is our go-to — this is the secret of the social magnets that people flock around.
Funnily enough, the secret to being likable is LIKING others.
This doesn’t mean obsequiously fawning—it means sidelining your prejudices, ignoring the other person’s negatives, and focusing on their positives.
To project warm charisma, you need genuine positive intentions — cursing someone in your head while acting kind and polite will set off subconscious red alarms.